It's important to note that men and women are in some certain ways different from the other. We act and think differently and see things from different points of view. A good understanding of these differences will enable us to understand our partner better, stop seeing them as being weird or not caring enough and be able to love them the way they are.
These differences includes; physical, psychological, sexual (emotional) and cultural differences.
PHYSICAL DIFFERENCES
Apart from the notable differences in the physical attributes of certain parts of the the male and female anatomy, everybody knows that men are the stronger sex. They are stronger, more aggressive and can get involved in strenuous activities then women.
PSYCHOLOGICAL DIFFERENCES
The way the male and the female brains work is quite different. We think, see and act differently to the same stimulus. The male brain is specialised, he has difficulties engaging in more than one or two things at a time. The female brain is not that specialised, she can work on several projects at once. Women are multi-tasked.
While men are logically controlled, women are intuitively/ emotionally controlled. Men tend to solve and deal with problems analytically and objectively, women are less objective and personally identify with the problem.
CULTURAL DIFFERENCES
Men from infancy have been taught to be tough, work hard, protect others and take responsibilties. While men have been trained as boys to be macho, to know about men things and be independent, women were trained as girls to be sweet, dependent, compliant, gentle and lady-like. Men are culturally competitive and goal oriented. They are driving by who they are and what they do.
A man is to be the breadwinner in the family and if he can't do this, he feel incomplete as if he is less than a real man. This is why most men put so much time into their work in order to define who they are and how much they are worth, to be a real man. This could greatly affect his mood and makes him more busy to have time for his woman. While men are task or success oriented, women are relationship oriented. She wants to talk to her man and want him to share his deepest feelings with her, to be a part of his daily life. She is much more interested in a relationship based on communication and intimacy.
SEXUAL DIFFERENCES
Once a man is attracted to a woman, his next feeling is to be sexual with her, love can come later. But a woman when attracted to a man need the feelings of love, sex could come later. She sees sex as a by-product of love.
Also, a man is usually aroused by visual or physical stimulation from any woman who is sexually attractive, either love is in the equation or not. On the other hand, a woman get aroused by touch, caress and affection. She responds sexually to a man who provides her with security, understanding, tenderness and compassion.
Most women that engage in extra- marital affairs tend to do so because they are angry, lonely, unsecured or somehow unfulfilled. They went outside to receive the understanding and compassion they long for from someone else other than their husband.
Happiness in a relationship doesn't just happen, you must be ready to work at it. You both are in no competition but to complement the other. Loving your partner means understanding how they are uniquely different from you and accepting them the way they are. Continuously seeking to understand leads to less anger and frustration in your relationship.
-Alasake
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