Most time we say Yes when deep down inside our hearts we meant to say No. We say yes so soon because we fail to think deeply on the consequences of our decisions or simply because we don't want to be seen as unfair, uncaring or selfish. We agree to do what is expected of us instead of following our heart. We say Yes so soon so there might be peace and everyone can be happy.
The word 'No' has been stereotyped to be a bad and negative word but in truth, it's a powerful and positive word. Saying No means you know what is right for you and you aren't ready to accept otherwise.
"No" is a complete sentence on its own and it demands no justification or explanation. But most times when we say No, we tend to indulge in the process of explaining ourselves and giving reasons for our decisions. We start to feel guilty and thereby try to explain or justify our motives.
You have a right to follow your heart and say no to whatsoever that doesn't align with your values, beliefs or personality. You have a right to accept or reject whatever is presented to you. You have a right to live your life without explaining the motive behind your actions. You have a right to choose what to do and what to spend your time on. You have a right to choose who to be with and who not to. You have a right to say no and give no explanation.
Most people are afraid to say No but instead say Yes because they lack the courage to. They fear being rejected or being thought as uncaring or selfish. They try to be in people's good book and when they say No, they start feeling guilty and may revert back to a 'Yes.'
And some because of peer pressure and the desire to follow the crowd would say Yes than to do what they know is right. People say Yes to make peace and keep everyone happy whereas deep down inside of them they would have said no.
Some people especially women often feel bad and guilty whenever they say No thereby wanting to explain themselves. Because women are emotionally driven and take things to heart more than the opposite sex, they tend to feel guilty when a Yes is expected of them but they said No. And at times men use this to their advantage against them.
Don't say Yes when you meant to say No. Let your Yes be Yes and your No, No. No need trying to prove a point or to impress/ please anyone by saying yes when you meant to say no. No need accepting what's presented to you when you know that's not what you want or you deserve.
Stop explaining yourself and be courageous enough to say no to whatever drain you of your happiness, time, energy and peace of mind. You have the freedom to choose what's right for you. And you have the right to decide if it's going to be a Yes or a No and you have a right not to explain to anyone why you choose so.
Say no against the unfair beliefs, corruption, pollution, discrimination of any kind, and lack of respect for certain gender, the elders and any living being, and to things that do not align with your values and beliefs.
Do things for people not just because they want you to but because you won't mind doing them. Don't be coerced or talked into doing things you know deep down inside of you you don't want to. If you know what they want is beyond your reach and you are not ready to go the extra miles for them simply say No. Don't do it and later be regretting "How I wish l'd said No." You can pleasantly and un- apologetically say no and resist from explaining yourself.
Life will be much more better and simpler when people learn to say Yes when they mean yes and No when they mean No.
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