What is the essence of a close friendship in which both parties aren't open to each other?
What makes it a close friendship when you can't speak out, share your pain and open up on what is bugging your mind other than sharing happy moments and laughing at stupid things? Close friends are not just friends. They are those close to you, those dear to your heart and shouldn't be there only to share happy times. They are mostly needed when the going gets tough, providing a shoulder to cry on and helping to bring relief to your troubled soul. They are mostly appreciated when passing through a storm and life challenges not when it's time to laugh crazily and make senseless merriments.
You have no business being in that close friendship if it isn't adding any value to your life. If you found your friend unworthy of your trust, if it's difficult for you two to open up to each other and discuss serious issues, if you both can't be there for each other in good times and bad times, then it's no close friendship, it's just a friendship..... A fair weather friendship!
If your close friend is someone you can only call upon when everything is rosy then you are on a long thing, you are simply alone! And at times it's good to be alone. At least you know you have got no close friend, and when you know you have no close friend you have a better understanding of your situation.... you know how to carry your cross!
If your close friend is someone you can only call upon when everything is rosy then you are on a long thing, you are simply alone! And at times it's good to be alone. At least you know you have got no close friend, and when you know you have no close friend you have a better understanding of your situation.... you know how to carry your cross!
The people that come to your mind and aid in time of sorrow are the real true friends. It will be worthwhile defining your friendships from the onset. Categorize them into ; The hi-hi friends, the fair-weather friends and the real or close friends with whom you shares your deep seated fears and pains. Never make the mistake of placing those in the first two categories in the place of the third. They aren't worthy of such honour and you would only end up disappointed. It is said you can't choose your family but you have the power to choose your friends. Choose them wisely.
The fair-weather friends are only there to call on when it's time to have fun, to laugh, gist or just to pass away the time. When problem eventually comes, your real or close friends are the ones that would be there for you. But the sad part of this is that they are so rare to come by these days. Most people out there are just interest in what to gain out of the friendship.
So it's good to define that friendship now. Don't wait until you find yourself in the storm before you know who your true close friends are.
-Alasake
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