These days we don't really care about other's feelings anymore, we just want to please ourselves. Our desire to get to the top in life, to be happy and to own the world have clouded our sense of reasonings. The saying ''love your neighbour as yourself'' has lost its meaning in our today's world.
"It's my life and i can do as i want!'' Yes, it's your life and you can surely live it as you want but there are people that look up to you. Friends and family that cares and will be deeply hurt if you do things wrongly or should anything happens to you.
"It's my life and i can do as i want!'' Yes, it's your life and you can surely live it as you want but there are people that look up to you. Friends and family that cares and will be deeply hurt if you do things wrongly or should anything happens to you.
No matter how we try, we need one another to get along for no one is an island. And you shouldn't in your quest to please yourself hurt the feelings of others. Every decision we make in life has a way of affecting the people close to us either positively or negatively. If only we can consider others before going ahead with our decisions..........
"How will this affect my family?"
"What will my spouse or partner feel or say if he/she gets to know about this?"
"How will my parents feel if they heard i did this? Would they still be proud of me?"
"How will this decision affect my friend? Will the friendship still be intact after this?"
"Wouldn't i be a betrayer to my boss if he/she gets to know about this despite the trust he/ she has in me?"
"What is the long term effect of this decision on those close to me? How is it beneficial to all concerned?"
* The neighbour that makes noise all day without a thought to the peace of others or if someone around is trying to catch a good sleep.
*The spouse that cheats on his/her partner. Have you ever thought about what might happen if your partner gets to know? Will you be happy if same is done to you?
* The wife that argues with the husband over every little things or complain/ nags all day........how would such husband love her when she never let him be at peace? Or the wife that can't help telling her friends or third party everything that happens in her home, who never stopped washing her husband's dirty linen in public.....how do you expect people to respect what you don't respect?
* The husband that maltreats his wife or refused to perform his responsibilities as the man of the house........what message are you passing across to the children? Would you be happy if your daughter ends up with a man like you?
* The child that play pranks, tells lies and engages in nefarious activities but comes home to act innocently before the parents.......how would the parents feel when they get to know who their son truly is?
* The parent that neglected his/ her kids or engages in illicit businesses......how would you expect the kids to grow up and be proud of you as their parent?
* The society that has forsaken its youth.........how does such society expect to have good leaders tomorrow when it refused to catch them young?
We should be ready to face the consequences of our actions on ourselves and those around us. Though it's good to put the love of self above others at times, we don't have to be so selfish we can't be bothered about the negative effects our actions could have on people close to us. If your action will affect others negatively, do not do it!
It's okay when we chose to do things that please us but more okay is it when we put others into consideration before doing them. We need to be watchful of what we do or say........It's not always just about us!
- Alasake
Right, what we do comes back to us, so thrive to do good to be able to expect the same.
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