One of the principles that govern marriage/ relationship is communication. Couple must talk. Communication enhances understanding between couple, it strengthen the bond and love they shares. When you communicate with your partner often, you get to know them better, you know what's going on in their lives, how they feel etc. The more you two talk and spend time together the more your love grows. A relationship devoid of good communication will have a lot of secrets in it.
Even people in distance relationship can make it work by communicating often. With open mindedness, trust, communication and the willingness of both parties to make it work, it will work. They both make it necessary to communicate at every given opportunity. The more they communicate, the more they feel the presence of each other without physically being together, they are together in spirit, the distance between them is just geography. And they both eagerly look forward to when they will eventually see face to face. And in this era of technological advancement, communication is being made easier by the day. One can now communicate with anybody from any part of the world.
When you notice some changes in your partner's attitude or you see/feel something you can't understand about them, call their attention to it. Try and find out what could be wrong instead of assuming or jumping into conclusions. We women are very good at this, we simply like jumping into conclusions without facts. Most women in this case would start assuming maybe the man has stopped seeing them appealing and must be seeing someone outside. Such assumption is baseless unless you have facts to back it up. You can only know what the reason is when you ask your man, or you simply go out and do your findings. As the woman is busy assuming many things, the man's mind could be on another thing entirely. It could be a problem at work, extended family issues, the contracts he is chasing after, or just how to make more money and take care of his family. Most times, problems with money gets a man frustrated and upset, and this shows at home.
Two things can make a man angry, happy or unhappy........money and women! A man with a woman but no money would be angry, and a man with money but no woman will feel incomplete. So if you notice your man is struggling financially, rather pray for him to breakthrough soon. An hungry man is an angry man, a poor man seldomly gets erection. When a man feels he can't provide for his family or perform his responsiblities, he is bound to be frustrated. His whole mind would be on how to make money.
So sit him down and talk to him. Though men love to keep secrets and tell lies a lot, all d same ask him what the problem is. If he tell you, fine, and if he make up stories, very good too, at least you asked him. Some men find it hard opening up to their woman if they find such woman unworthy of keeping secrets or if she is the type that jumps to conclusions easily.
Women, when you want your man to do something for you, talk to him about it, don't expect him to just know. Men are the worst mind readers and they hardly remember dates and anniversaries. Some are even so unromantic they hardly buy you gifts or take you out. You don't need to fight them on this, all you need to do is to understand your man and know what best works for you and your relationship. Remind him of the date beforehand and tell him what you want. Although it won't come as a surprise anymore but at least you will have what you want. Take him out for shoppings and on other outings while you pay the bills. There is a way you can get back your money from him later, but for now, you have got what you wanted which is an outing and quality time spent with him.
Never make the mistake of comparing your relationship/man with others. What your man is good at, others may not. Understand your man and learn how to enjoy him the way he is........ To be continued
-Alasake
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