Men, spend time with your woman let her open up to you. Talk to her and let her know you are in her life for good. Women love to talk. Let her be free to tell you what is going on in her mind, her life, at work, her pains, fears and everything generally. Give her a listening ear.
Stop putting fears into her in the name of respect. Even if you are by far older than her, she is your partner and not your daughter, she should be free with you. When it comes to situations when you have to act like her Daddy, you will know, not when it's time to talk and be free with you. Even when she seems to be blabbing, just pretend to listen and enjoy the time with her. Talking freely with you makes her happy and her happiness should be a thing of joy to you. You are her man and she is your woman, learn to deal with it.
Never make the mistake of shutting her up or she may withdraw into her shell, also it could put fear into her. Who knows, you could be the only person she feels free to open up to and blabs all she wants. Or will you rather prefer her go gossiping with her friends?
Don't let your ego prevent you from enjoying your relationship or stop you from showing that you cares. Some men just expect their woman to automatically know things. Some believe she must know if they are happy or not and should know why. Though some women would know, but not all, some still need to be told. Your woman is no super woman, she is no magician, stop expecting her to just know. she can't see through into your mind. Talk to her and explain the situation of things to her, you both are to complement the other, you are not in any competition. You should be best of friends and talk always.
When your partner wronged you and you are expecting an apology that isn't forth coming, call their attention to it, let them know what they have done wrong and how much it hurts, You may be surprised they may not know they are hurting you. Try and settle any misunderstanding amicably and let peace reign.
So for your love to grow and stand the test of time, communicate often with your partner. Spend quality time with them, go out together and engage in activities you both love and get talking. Do all these with an open mind and sincerity. Be free and be you. Let them get to know and keep falling in love with the real you, no pretence .
If you have a partner you ain't really free to talk or spend time with, then it's time to renew your love and commitment, time to start all over again. Start learning to talk and spend time with them, you guys should be friends and not strangers. Even if it has to be forced, force the conversation. Make it happen. Take the lead and talk to him or her. Be nice and sincere, do it with love and with time he/she will see reasons with you and talk with you. You both should come down to earth and be what you are...........friends!
-Alasake
Very honest words and commonsense advice Aderonke!
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