Everyone gets afraid and usually of many things. This is normal and natural. Often fear is necessary to preserve life, prevent injury and guard against mistakes.
The bravest person you know also gets scared but doesn't allow it to show. He simply disciple himself to deal, confront and act in spite of the fear, while a coward allows himself to be dominated and controlled by the fear.
Fear is a terrible emotion which if allowed holds you back from being effective and undermines your happiness. It paralyses action and often shut down the brain.
BEING COURAGEOUS IN THE FACE OF FEAR
Courage which is the ability to control fear in the face of danger or pain is not common in every human, not everyone has it.
To overcome your fear, you have got to confront it and act with courage. And for you to act with courage whenever you are faced with fear you need to develop this ability.
Developing your courage demands you believe in yourself first and in your ability. You say to yourself you can do it and make yourself to believe it. Continuously affirm this to yourself. The more you repeatedly say it to yourself "I can do it" the more your self confidence grow. And has this happens, your subconscious mind pick up the vibes and affirms to you that you can do it. This gives you the strength and the courage you need to act accordingly.
Repeatedly discipline yourself to always act in the face of fear by doing the thing that you are afraid of doing. When you take the courage and do what you are afraid to do, the initial fear will disappear.
Your ability to always act and deal with fear is the key to your happiness and success.
DEALING WITH A BULLY
Each of us has at one time or the other come across people who try to use their power, strength or position to hurt or intimidate us into submission.
A bully can come in form of your boss at work, your spouse/ partner, co worker or colleague, your team mate/ someone in your peer group or anyone that tries to use their strength or power to intimidate you.
Bullies get us afraid, they frustrate and make us unhappy. They lower our self esteem and make us believe there is no escape route. And the only reason why someone will bully another is because he feels he can get away with it.
But the truth is bullies are actually cowards at heart! They try to intimidate everyone they think is below their power until they are confronted. The only way to deal with a bully is to confront him. Bullies usually flee from confrontations.
Confront them and let them know you will appreciate it if they do not talk/ treat you in such manner ever again. Let them know how much it hurts your feelings and prevent you from being at you best with them.
Firmly pass your message across looking them straight in the eyes and ensure it sinks into their head. You will be amazed the result.
No one has the right to frustrate or make another person unhappy. Always confront the object of your fear immediately it happens and do not let it make you unhappy for another minute.
And just as Eleanor Roosevelt once said, "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."
- Alasake
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