Communication is very vital to the survival of any relationship. You two must talk. Not just talking but having deep conversations. Apart from conversations on general stuff like the kids, the bills, getting things done for the home and other things, have more talk on things that make you stay emotionally in tune with each other. Make it a point to take time off each day to talk about each other's feelings, fears, hope and expectations for the future or just enjoying each other's company.
* Fight clean*
One thing you can never stop from happening in a relationship is conflict or disagreement of any sort. It is inevitable. But your ability to deal with it when it happens or about to happen will set the tune and direction for your relationship. You have got to know how to air your differences productively. Dealing with conflict is a large part of any long term relationship. You both won't always see things in the same way at the same time but there should be respect for each others point of view. Sometimes it could demand you compromising a little and let your partner win the argument just to avoid conflict and let peace reign or at most, stating your point amicably without letting it degenerates into something else. When there is a conflict, do not let your mind dwell too long on your partner's wrongs or the pains they are causing you. Let them know where and how they have wronged you and seek how the conflict can be settled on time. Don't keep grudges with your partner. Stop thinking about how much they wronged you and start remembering how much joy they brought into your life, the sweet words they said to you and the sweet memories of your time together. With this, forgiving them comes easily. So fight with an open mind, fight clean and fight with love in your heart.
* Take responsibility*
If there is anything you want done, stop waiting for your partner to come get it done when you can do it. Get down and get it fixed. If there is something in your relationship you want changed, do something about it. You are an adult and should be ready to take responsibilities always. It makes your partner respect and value you more. For instance, as a woman, you don't need to spend everyday looking through the windows waiting for your husband to come home and spend time with you or make you happy when you know his work demands so much from him. You can make yourself happy whether he is around or not. Get yourself engaged with what you love doing or have passion for. Slot in the music and get yourself some nice drink then relax. Or go register for a dancing class (or any other program) that will occupy your time and give you some sort of fulfillment. Be a better you and make your relationship better. Stay connected.
-Alasake
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