So what do these Men really want?
Love
Men want love. They want a woman who will love them unconditionally. A woman who love them for who they are and not for what they have. This is why most men tend to study or test a woman from the onset of the relationship to see if she is after them for what they have or she is genuinely in love with them. Men want to feel loved, to be pampered and cared for like a baby. They want to be the centre of attraction of their women's world.
Support
A man wants support from his woman. Women serve as helpmates to the men. A man wants a woman who will be there for him in good time and in bad time, supporting him all the way, a shoulder to hold on to when in need. Real men want their women beside them as a friend and confidant rather than behind them as a follower. She acts as the neck while the man is the head, and both need each other. Women are more organised and multi-tasked than men, they are needed to put things in order, seeing to it that everything is well arranged as it should be.
Respect
Men love to be respected. They want respect from their women. Hardly will you see a man who likes a rude woman. No matter how beautiful a lady could be, good characters are what she need to keep a man and respect is part of it. A woman who is naturally rude can't be in the good book of real men. No man want a woman who will disrespect him either privately or in the presence of others. His male ego can't take it. Even in relationship of equal rights respect should be reciprocal...as the man respects the woman, the woman should show same in return. Being respected increases our self worth and our self esteems. We feel good within ourselves and have the feelings of being important. Men want honour from their women. They want to be celebrated and appreciated for whatever efforts they are making. When a man is appreciated for his efforts no matter little, he feels good and special within himself and is motivated to do more, to please his woman and make her happy. Men want their women to trust in their abilities to lead. This doesn't mean the whole decison making process affecting the relationship is done by the man alone. Real men carry their women along.
The Cookie
Everyman wants sex and love to have sex. Men love to have sex with a woman they love and at times, with a woman they don't love. Having sex to a man doesn't really have anything to do with love, they just love to do it. To some men sex is like food. We women may not understand why this is so.... that's just the way they are wired. A man would want to have sex with the woman he loves, to create a bond and act as a sign of his love for her, but that doesnt mean the mere act of having sex with a woman signifies the man loves her, he could be doing so purely for the satisfaction of his sexual urge. Infact, men can have sex with a woman they hate as hell!
Men want their freedom. They want their peace! No man wants a woman who will be breathing down his neck or stalking him around. An obssesed or possessive woman to any man is a nuisance and most men avoid such. They want their space, they need the ''me time'' to relax, hang out with friends and catch some fun. A real woman should understand that because the man now has her doesn't mean he should spend all his time wih her alone. She shouldn't expect him to neglect or forsake his family and friends. Give him some space, let him spend time with other people and engage his in hobbies. Let him be comfortable. Let him have fun and be himself. Though it's not advisable to let him loose at all time, moderation is the key. Wisdom is all that is needed.
-Alasake
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